The Virtuous Life: Silence

[jarheadshiner]

Pretty good rules to live by. If we would all take the time to heed some of this simple advice I believe we would have a better interaction and exchange of ideas with one another IMO.
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2008/03/1 ... e-silence/

[pounsfos]

What a great read

Coming originally froma customer service background, I could not agree more with these words

thanks for sharing

[jarheadshiner]

My pleasure pounsfos. We all seem to lose a bit of our manners especially on the net. It's easily done and to justify it to yourself or others as "tough love" or "matter of fact". I'm rarely the smartest guy in the "room" so maybe it comes easier for me to be humble than a more educated person.
Just seems like a good way to conduct yourself but what do I know. Lol. Thought it was good food for thought anyways whether you agree or disagree.
BTW I have wanted to crawl under the table at times when dining with people who are rude to the staff (not saying that was your occupation, just using it as an example). I wait for them to go to the restroom, apologize for them, and end up leaving a huge tip!

[wv_cooker]

Very good read JH, and something we could all benefit from!

[DAD300]

Good post, thanks.

I used to travel outside the U.S. and was always taken back by people NOT answering their phone.

While visiting a friend in another country the phone rang. I said, please answer. They said no and proceeded to tell me that people in the U.S. were the only ones so important that they thought they HAD to answer a ringing phone.

The anonymity of the interweb allows people to say things and in a way, they never would in person, with no fear of reprisal!

This eliminates the idea of a Polite Society. In a Polite Society you are courteous because you fear not being courteous. People don't have to be polite, because from XXX miles away they have no fear.

I'd like to see how some of those same people act in a crowded biker bar...

[Jimbo]

Nice read thanks.

I have wanted to crawl under the table at times when dining with people who are rude to the staff

yes sir, me too. Been there and make no apologies for telling my friend or whoever to shut the fuck up already. (That last rule on salty language is one Ill fail, I make no appologies for any juvenile mentality either). Anyway, a little honey goes much MUCH farther than salt and demeaning cruelty when things arent going well.

Somewhere along the road of life I read the phrase "The character of a man is not determined by how he behaves when everythings going well, its determined by how he behaves when its not" Or something along those lines. I live by that, usually.

[jarheadshiner]

I probably should have mentioned that this is the first forum I have ever belonged to. I am a member of a few other distiller sights now but that's it. All in all we keep it pretty civil here but are far from polite. Ever go to a sports site or you tube and look at how people talk to each other? Wow!

The anonymity of the interweb allows people to say things and in a way, they never would in person, with no fear of reprisal!

This eliminates the idea of a Polite Society. In a Polite Society you are courteous because you fear not being courteous. People don't have to be polite, because from XXX miles away they have no fear.

I'd like to see how some of those same people act in a crowded biker bar...

I am of the exact same mind on this one for sure DAD. No doubt that there are some legitimate "tough guys" on here but I doubt that they are the ones who feel the need to prove it behind a keyboard.

(That last rule on salty language is one Ill fail, I make no appologies for any juvenile mentality either). Anyway, a little honey goes much MUCH farther than salt and demeaning cruelty when things arent going well.

Somewhere along the road of life I read the phrase "The character of a man is not determined by how he behaves when everythings going well, its determined by how he behaves when its not" Or something along those lines. I live by that, usually.

Yeah I fail the language one miserably too Jimbo but I try to look at it as an atmosphere situation. You don't strike me as the type who would be cursing loud enough for the kids 3 tables away in a family restaurant could hear you. If you're at the local bar it is a different environment and set of rules. I try to keep it to a minimum on here but see no harm in it personally unless it is out of anger which you never do.

Somewhere along the road of life I read the phrase "The character of a man is not determined by how he behaves when everythings going well, its determined by how he behaves when its not" Or something along those lines. I live by that, usually.

Sounds like sound advice to me.

Somewhere along the road it has become acceptable (and even admired) to be crass and rude. Not sure when, why, or how but I have never subscribed to that school of thought.
Ouch! Think I twisted my ankle getting down from my soapbox.