How did you get the wife's permission
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How did you get the wife's permission
So... i am having a difficult time getting permission to actually make anything at home. I built the still(s) at work and have it all there but have yet to ferment anything etc because I don't want to just show up at home with it all and let all hell break loose. She just thinks i am going to blow myself up. I keep telling her that i have done a lot more stupid stuff then this. You think i can just hide it all with the wine making stuff in the basement?
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
yes, yes you can
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Maybe a master or two could post something about the safety of the stills you have built on the thread you started here : http://homedistiller.org/forum/viewtopi ... 50&t=35837
Far as I can tell, you know what you are doing...and your stills look safe to me. If they do, you could show her the thread and explain the process for as long as she is willing to listen. I subscribe to the happy wife - happy life concept here...good luck to ya.
Far as I can tell, you know what you are doing...and your stills look safe to me. If they do, you could show her the thread and explain the process for as long as she is willing to listen. I subscribe to the happy wife - happy life concept here...good luck to ya.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I have a good agreement with my wife. I get one room to use as my office and she doesn't care what happens in it so long as she gets the rest of the house. Ohh, and she wants to be involved in flavoring/aging. Also have the stipulation that future homes with basements/garages become mine as well.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I just give mine a big ol' jug of vodka every couple weeks and she stays happy.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I started long before I even met my wife. She loves the smell of cooking corn especially when I add the barley or rye or wheat. I did give it up for about 9 or 10 years. Then a few years ago she told me get back into it. There's more to it than that, but that's the gist of it.
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I am very lucky. So I'm told.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I'm lucky. My gal loves the hobby and wants to involved in the whole process of the hobby. She just made her first all grain bourbon and just bought her own bucket and started her own Ujsm.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I'm currently in the research phase and have not asked permission.
I figure its better to beg forgiveness than ask permission
Unlike most guys, I do NOT have a garage to stash my stuff. And currently, all my other 'toys' has been exiled to 'downstairs' as she makes the main living floor 'acceptable' to the public. (Translation, all the boys stuff has been relegated to the part if the house not commonly seen by guests)
In her quest for 'rationalisation' of the house, downstairs looks like a bomb site and my stilling gear is mixed up with it.
I plan to holder fermenters in an unused bathroom, the only issue is the cooler temps. But unlike most people, cool is relative as I live in the subtropics. But the temp is a slight issue as it took forever for a cider I was fermenting to kick off and run its course
I figure its better to beg forgiveness than ask permission
Unlike most guys, I do NOT have a garage to stash my stuff. And currently, all my other 'toys' has been exiled to 'downstairs' as she makes the main living floor 'acceptable' to the public. (Translation, all the boys stuff has been relegated to the part if the house not commonly seen by guests)
In her quest for 'rationalisation' of the house, downstairs looks like a bomb site and my stilling gear is mixed up with it.
I plan to holder fermenters in an unused bathroom, the only issue is the cooler temps. But unlike most people, cool is relative as I live in the subtropics. But the temp is a slight issue as it took forever for a cider I was fermenting to kick off and run its course
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I saw the book "moonshine" by rawlings or whatever his name is and got it while I was getting books for the kids. (it caught my eye)
Then a month or so later I asked for Ian Smiley's book for my birthday. (which I got)
I built everything and fermented etc and since I had fermented beer and wine before she didn't really know what i was doing. I made ujsm and put it in whiskey bottles. Went to the inlaws and we drank it for about 3 month's, always drinking "gilby's" instead of the usual golden wedding we always got. It was different, but since i was supplying drinks, nobody said a word (her parents are freaking cheapskates)
One day I said "try this", and the wife said "ooh that's what you made? that's horrible"
i said you've been drinking it for 3 months now....
Well....she freaked...thought i was going to poison everybody...AND HER PARENTS DRANK IT????OMG!!!!!
That was 6 years or more ago and now she can't drink store bought. She asks for various things, brags to her friends, etc. Her parents drink it because it's free and haven't bought likker in probably 5 years or more.
We show up to play cards and we bring the likker, 7-up and sometimes junk food too!
friggen cheapskates....
Then a month or so later I asked for Ian Smiley's book for my birthday. (which I got)
I built everything and fermented etc and since I had fermented beer and wine before she didn't really know what i was doing. I made ujsm and put it in whiskey bottles. Went to the inlaws and we drank it for about 3 month's, always drinking "gilby's" instead of the usual golden wedding we always got. It was different, but since i was supplying drinks, nobody said a word (her parents are freaking cheapskates)
One day I said "try this", and the wife said "ooh that's what you made? that's horrible"
i said you've been drinking it for 3 months now....
Well....she freaked...thought i was going to poison everybody...AND HER PARENTS DRANK IT????OMG!!!!!
That was 6 years or more ago and now she can't drink store bought. She asks for various things, brags to her friends, etc. Her parents drink it because it's free and haven't bought likker in probably 5 years or more.
We show up to play cards and we bring the likker, 7-up and sometimes junk food too!
friggen cheapskates....
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Its easier to beg for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission......
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I have 25x50 all stills and fermenters and related tools,no one says a thing,,
as a matter of fact,,,,,the old dog joins me.
as a matter of fact,,,,,the old dog joins me.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Just bought a house... A shop was a must.
She gets the house and the garage.. I get the 30x30.
Works for me.
She gets the house and the garage.. I get the 30x30.
Works for me.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Frick, what I wouldn't give for a 30X30. I get a 6x6 in the garage. But, god love the little lady...she gives me little Sh#T for my crazy ideas.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Married me a NC girl the second time around. Problem solved...
If yer wife's got a problem with yer hobbies, yer wife's the problem, not the hobby.
If yer wife's got a problem with yer hobbies, yer wife's the problem, not the hobby.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
+1 Barney! Lucky to say: my mss doesn't have a problem with my hobby.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
To quote Yoda,
"Ask not, do".
"Ask not, do".
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Oh trust me I am already well on my way of "doing". I guess it will just live at work for now and i can just "work" on the weekends sometimes. Until i go electric then it is def coming to live in the basement. **note to self: next house needs a very large shed.. ***
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
my wife's a "Newf" ... no more needed said
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Lifetime supply of screech!bellybuster wrote:my wife's a "Newf" ... no more needed said
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
haha, Screech is actually just jamaican rum packaged for Newfoundland although the story is an interesting read
http://www.screechrum.com/story
http://www.screechrum.com/story
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Never even asked, just told her what I was doing. All I got was "don't get caught"!!! She'll sit with me from time to time while I'm makin a run.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I know the risk of getting caught is slim and should remain so as long as we are careful. I still think it is important to have a real conversation with the lady regarding the implications. I was candid with her about every aspect. My wife has been with me attempting this 20years ago and she continues to support me as this has become a real hobby for me. I told her if she was ever uncomfortable about it I wouldn't hesitate -- I'd get rid of it all. Call me whipped...Family is too damn important to me to not let her have a say...when it comes to something like this.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
Pyewacket wrote: I told her if she was ever uncomfortable about it I wouldn't hesitate -- I'd get rid of it all. Call me whipped...Family is too damn important to me to not let her have a say...when it comes to something like this.
Well put!
The man bangin' on the door yelled "Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms!"....I just assumed it was more supplies.
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
I guess I got lucky. She was sold when I said the word "alcohol".
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im from the south and my old ladys a yankee. her family from the south to so i just told her it was in our blood. she called her father and asked him if i would blow up the house. 10 mins after i found out about the phone call. my phone blows up asking how long till testing. now i have to spray them with the garden hose to get them out.
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its like wiping before you poop, dont make sense.
its like wiping before you poop, dont make sense.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
A section of the county I am from has long been called the Land of spirits - Nuff said.
Forbidden in Heaven and Useless in Hell ....
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
So i guess i just have to move south. Sounds good to me.
Re: How did you get the wife's permission
All I said was "Guess what honey, Remember when you said we spend to much on whiskey? Well, I've found a solution to the dilema".
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
My wife said , if I want her permission , it will cost me . First still , cost me remodel bathroom . Wanted to upgrade , and that cost me new hardwood floor in living room . Now just ordered a new still , Lord knows what she will think of this time . The way I see it , as long as she lets me do my thing , she can ask for and get whatever she wants .
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Re: How did you get the wife's permission
If i have to go thru life with someone who is not fair/reasonable i leave.